Thursday, September 18, 2008

For the ladies in search of that man (real talk here)

Had to add this as a reminder for my friends and well women struggling now to find that one special person in their life.......this comes from a great friend with that REAL honest stuff. Something for those single ladies to ponder! Its real deal and all in love.

Please beware of what's about to be read...

Men decide to get married and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's not going in your direction, get off the bus & wait for the right one.

Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and Gods hand in the relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends. Scripture says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord" (Prov. 18:22). Note - who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time, God has transported men & women across the world in order to put them together. At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you. In Gods perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate. Adam has no problem recognizing that Eve is his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don't have to help a guy out because he's shy! Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested. Mothers have suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him. As cold as that may sound, it actually might be scriptural if you stop to think about it:

"We love him because he first loved us" (1 John 4:19). Until then, take the ultimate chill pill. You don't need a bunch of men in your life to make you feel all right about yourself. You need only one man your man, the one God has selected to select you. And trust me, the right man at the wrong time can be just as awful as the wrong man at any time. So trust Gods timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker.

Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again - WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationship. You may have an inkling that he is the one, but God will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the opportunity to woo you - this is your first act of submission. Jesus set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the relationship...then into marriage...they will the key....but when your heart is lost in becomes easier Ladies...alot easier...I about hard head make a soft ashhh..until your 'His Woman of Favor' your thang...being that strong independent faithful woman to Him...b/c with or without a man...we have to be this...its just when we get one...its makes things alot smoother b/c your man's/husbands actions shoudn't dictate yours...only His...which will bring you to the next in order....

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