Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Dead Beat Daddies

Now mind you, I ain't the type of person that loves drama. That loves to see others suffer at the expense of my words. I am however, the type or woman that will say what is on my mind, regardless if it hurts peoples feelings. Its about tellin' the truth, and well some people don't know how to handle things for what they are.

I don't understand women who use their children against these men, who are trying to be there for that child. Whats the definition of a DEAD BEAT DAD? Hell DEAD BEAT Parent in general..........its a person who is unwilling to be active in their child's life, financially and emotionally. Someone who has no intentions of building a relationship with a child they conceived.

Understand this! I know what its like to have a TRUE Deadbeat Dad involved with my children. I experienced it first hand, the nigga don't want no part in his son/daughter's life. They only want to come around for ME, they could give a damn about that child. They use that child to try and squirm their way back into a relationship with me. They don't pay shit! They ARE on child support and constantly change their jobs to avoid helping in the costs for their child. They never call, they never attempt to be involved. I watched this same there for two other women's children. It hurt me to see this, but God knows whats best for my child. And as a GROWN ASS woman, its not for me to tell this nigga to get off his ass and take care of his responsibilities. I've never called him OVER and OVER asking for money, clothes, etc. But one thing I can say, outside of it all.........even when this man wasn't helping financially, I NEVER told him he couldn't see his child.

With that said, I have sat back and kept my mouth shut on things. I figured thats not for me to speak upon. But when my children and well even I am brought into the conversation.....well its time to say something. Lets get things straight, and my friends/family know this firsthand..........there is no man...that takes care of my children. It is ME, Amanda Ramos...........paying for the daycare costs, clothes on their backs, food on the table, the bills to make sure we have a roof over our heads. But I will say this, the person I am with now....we decided we wanted to build something more, in fact...we are planning on getting married, so with that said yes, we are both working towards the goals we have set for our family. And thats all children involved. Not just mine, his as well. I think I'm starting to realize something, this person who is so set on making him feel horrible for finding someone that makes him happy.........still has feelings for him. It has to be that. Its okay though, God don't like ugly and well with all the suffering she is trying to put on him, it will come back to her. Due time.

Saturday, August 4, 2007

Life Lately

Hola all my fam and friends...

Well with me, things are going good. I started back with school again this week. Not so bad so far. I'm enjoying it right now but I know I'm not looking forward to writing essays...which is something I will have to do as the final assignment. I'm sure I will get through it.

Next, regarding work. I LOVE MY JOB! I knew the day I walked in there it was going to be a great place to work. Yes, their not completely organized because they just started this new product that I am working on. For those who don't know, I work in the medical insurance business processing medical and hospital claims. So this product is based on the Medicare plan. But because I have the previous experience from the job I started at down here in Houston...its worked out beautifully regarding what we're getting trained to do. Since I was doing it beforehand at my previous job. I've been doing lots of OT and managed to get my hours in during the week so I could have the weekend off. Not like I'll be doing much, other than cleaning, running some errands and school work.

My babies will be here soon! I'm so excited, only two more weeks. I gotta get their room in order and clothes washed. I ordered Aries school uniforms yesterday so they will be here before he gets here. Still have to get him some school supplies but it shouldn't be too bad, since I took a look at the list of his stuff needed for him going into 2nd grade. Crazy! The thought that my son is going to be in 2nd, it came quickly. One more year and Natalya will be in pre-k. I've been counting that school year down since she was born, 2008-2009. Hahaha! Then all my babies will be in school.

Next, I feel bad for my sweety David...he misses home so much, but mainly his son. Its been six months since he's seen his son and I feel really bad. I wish DJ could come up here and visit with his dad, but somewhere in the midst of this we'll set it up where David can go down and visit for the weekend. I know he needs it and I completely understand how much pain it brings to his heart not being a part of his son's life every single day. I've asked him about moving back to New Orleans, just to be closer to his son. He would love that, but he knows how I am with my own family. Its a hard decision, we both will have to come to. Especially now that we both have some really great jobs and things are coming together financially all the way around.

I love David with all my heart and I know he wants so badly to have his son near him. Its just hard being further from my own family. But then again, if I have my own children with me, then it shouldn't matter. Just a lot of things to think of regarding a move like that. I don't know what kind of jobs are down there in my field or what the pay is considering I'm making really good money here. Just a lot to consider....

So thats my lil' update...........laters and love ya'll.